Here are 5 false beliefs that prevent you from healing your past:

1. You spend too much time reliving the past and feeling like a victim

Yes, your parents were bigger than you then but you're not a child anymore. You can say no now. As an adult, many men and women struggle with saying no, especially to people who are important in their lives. Saying no can be one of the most empowering actions you can take to get free of the past.

2. You still see yourself as someone with no power to change anything

First off, you have infinite power to change yourself. And that's not a small thing; people who step up and take charge of their own lives change all kinds of things for the better. Taking just 3 minutes a day to visualize yourself changing, and being in charge of your life, will start to shift the results you are getting in your life.

3. You focus on the rules your parents enforced, even though many of them don't benefit you, are outdated, or simply just garbage

It's okay that as a child you just adopted your parent's beliefs. But now you are an adult. It's time to step back and ask yourself what rules are bogus and need to be kicked to the curb. When you start creating your own rules to live by, you'll feel a sense of freedom and wholeness that has been missing in life because you've stepped into your power as a creator.

4. You're still trying to make your parents happy in hopes that someday they'll finally love you and say they are sorry things were so bad.

Stop waiting for others to apologize so you can feel good. Acknowledge that you hurt, yourself, your partner, or your friend. And then acknowledge you have the power to change all of that now. You can forgive. Do you pay your own bills? Have your own job? Have a good credit rating? Then you don't need your parent's approval for anything. You are in charge of your own life and you can decide today to start feeling good about yourself in spite of anything that happened.

5. You believe that you really are worthless because your parents told you all the time and they must be right

Are you seeing a pattern? I hope so. Some of you had parents who did a horrible job raising you. They were cruel, unkind, unloving, or downright mean. That's a fact but it's over. Get involved in mindfulness practices that will shift how you think and how your mind attaches to things. Meditation will allow you to increase your ability to feel at peace and to clear the past. Just 5 minutes a day is a great start and increases gradually over time. Make a solid decision that you are done with the past and you will be free and open to new things. Put rituals in place that help you cultivate forgiveness and gratitude every day.