Ohemaa Mercy has shared what she views as an important lesson learned through marriage and divorce.

“When you’re going through divorce, one thing I’ve learned is: Don’t depend on any man,” she said, adding this was crucial for “every woman” to note.

She explained: “Because tomorrow, there are some things you’ll regret.”

“For me, my dependence was on the Lord,” she added. “I didn’t want to talk to anyone or [let] anyone hear of what I was going through.”

Thus, the Gospel star’s usage of ‘man’ was ambiguous as it could be interpreted as ‘an adult male partner’ or, as is popular in Christian circles per Old English, ‘a human being’.

Enduring more than a pandemic

Ohemaa Mercy said “during the covid season” was when “I had that serious covenant and an encounter with the Lord, speaking to him solely – going to the mountains, being there for three months – I really wanted to hear what the Lord wanted to tell me about what was going on around me”.

She said when she finally “heard it clearly, I took that bold step”.  

| (L-R) Isaac Twum Ampofo and ex-wife Ohemaa Mercy

During this period, the singer-songwriter said she cautioned “the devil” to do his worst but be mindful “if I’m able to pull this rope to my side and I win this battle, you’re in trouble”.

Though “I’m divorced – I give God the glory – because this is [also] the time I’ve seen the hand of God so strongly in my life,” she testified, “Even more than [when I was married].”

Initially, the multiple award-winning singer said, “I was depending on man.”

Initiating the divorce

Ohemaa Mercy emphasised: “If I had not heard from God, I would not have walked out of my marriage. And when I spoke to my partner too, he also understood that we had to do this, and then pray and see what the Lord would do.”

The Ote Me Mu (He Lives in Me) hitmaker shared the words she spoke to her husband when she initiated their divorce.

“I really want us to have a break. I need to run with the ministry. And I know that is your passion for me. Let me run with it. Let us take care of the kids, and help each other. If I’m going through something, we talk about it. Let’s take care of the kids. And I don’t want to fail God,” she recalled saying.

The conversation with her “mature” husband, was “cordial,” and their relationship “up till now” has been same, she assured.

By staying in her marriage, Ohemaa Mercy, categorically indicated, “I was failing God.”

Co-parenting

“If you’re a woman going through divorce, your partner is not your enemy. Yes, because of the kids, you have a covenant,” Ohemaa Mercy said, as “advice”.

The curator of the popular and annual Tehillah Experience asserted she allowed God to help her through her divorce “so that it’d be another phase for every woman to emulate; that if you’re going through battles in your marriage and it comes to a point of you going through a divorce, understand that you can never be enemies [with your ex]. You have to help each other because of the kids. It’s not profitable to do otherwise”.

Ohemaa Mercy’s story and conviction appear to fly in the face of her Christian faith. She spoke to Cookie Tee of TV3 on Today’s Woman.